Have you ever been told to fall in love with yourself? I doubt it. As a child in our society, you have been conditioned to think about falling in love with another person. From childhood fairy tales, to prime time TV, movies, and all other media there is always an element of falling in love with another person. Although this is an important part of human life, it should not be your first love. The person to whom you need to love first is yourself. An individual must learn what makes them happy, how to have fun, to console themself, and create a safe haven all generated from within. Only then, will you find the healthy partner love that is so often portrayed in society through mass media. In fact, if you do not learn to love yourself first, one will make a poor partner choice because they will seek out in another what they lack in themselves. In doing so, you will give away your power, sense of peace, and happiness. It is better to be grounded in self love and form a partnership in which you choose to share yourself from a solid ground rather than enter a lifelong commitment because of fear or lack. Too often, when we are asked what makes us happy or what we do for fun it includes the likes of others. Do not fall into the trap of expectation and societal grooming. Rather stop, reflect, and know solidly that you are in love with yourself before sharing that love, your life, and your bed with someone else.
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