The desire for a powerful mate is all over our society. Have you ever noticed that couple that seems out of balance? For example, one person is much younger or more attractive and the match strikes you as being odd. I bet there is a power piece to the relationship. Oftentimes, people match up on physicality and other traits except when it comes to power. If you are wondering, yes, power can be related to wealth but not always.
If you think about human genetics, the female attraction to a powerful mate makes sense because the powerful male made the difference in a patriarchal society and led to her survival. Therefore, one could argue that, on some level, the desire for a powerful mate is our ancestral DNA.
Another reason that a person looks for a powerful mate is because they are codependent and thus fill themselves from the outside. A codependent is looking for a powerful mate that will make them feel safe and secure and thus “happy”. The problem in this scenario is that the person then hands over all of their own unrealized power to another person who often abuses these privileges. This is often the case in a narcissist relationship, for example.
The bottom line here is to ask yourself what attracted you to your current mate or what is a key factor that attracts you to a partner in general? If power is a key component, you need to think about it.
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